Do you sometimes put other people on a pedestal? Do you wish you were more?

Have you ever met someone and thought to yourself, "Gee, I wish I could be like that. She's so confident and self-assured. She's so successful...".

STOP!

Every single one of us has a purpose and that purpose is very important! If there is something you truly want for your life, know that it will be yours!

In The Big Life Self-Mastery Program, I wrote, "If your life's purpose is to move a mountain, you'll figure out a way to move a mountain!"

The other night I went to the 2nd annual Fierce Women of the Year awards. As each woman received her award of recognition, it brought up some interesting thoughts and feelings for me.

I was the queen of all-or-nothing. In my mind, if I wasn't eating perfectly and exercising perfectly then I might as well go to an all-you-can-eat buffet and get my 2 year old to change the TV channels for me.

I was so not okay with imperfection when it came to diet and exercise, that it really made my life very miserable.

The thing is, when we maintain an all-or-nothing attitude, what we're really saying is that we aren't okay with things being imperfect. In other words, do it perfectly or don't do it at all.

Now I can see how this mindset could bring about some high achievements... granted you don't end up sabotaging yourself. But to maintain an all-or-nothing attitude requires a lot of rigidity and a lot of conditions. We self-impose some seriously high expectations when we choose this kind of attitude.

We all have crazy days. Regardless of what makes it a crazy day, all we want to do is go to bed and hope tomorrow is a whole lot different.

The thing is, these bad days always contain a message. That's the funny part about life; it keeps us on our toes. If we want to avoid having crazy day after crazy day, it requires us to do a little detective work. Life doesn't just magically get better or less hectic; it's our job to reflect and make changes accordingly.

So here are a few key things I strongly suggest when you find yourself having one of those crazy days. I've listed them as do's and don'ts...

Your List of Do's...

A few weeks ago, I was coaching a client who was struggling with the lesson, Ditching Your Resentments, in The Big Life Self-Mastery Program.

As she began talking about her challenge to ditch her resentments, she revealed a really personal life story that would indeed qualify as 'unforgivable'.

As I coached her through her challenge I shared with her my perspective about forgiveness.

I personally believe that forgiveness is not about the person or situation that has hurt us, but rather forgiveness is about our own peace of mind.

Have you ever heard the saying, "Revenge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"? The same is true with resentments. When we hold onto our hurt, anger or even hate toward another person or situation, we are the one paying the price; we are the the one who is suffering. The person we are angry at is living their life and the situation we resent goes unchanged.

It’s Friday morning. My kids don’t have school today, but since I’m used to the schedule, I was laying wide awake in my bed this morning by 6:45am.

Since there was no reason for me to rush, I just laid there and pondered my life. I’ve been making some really big changes for most of the year and especially over the last few months.

These changes are lifestyle changes that I’ve been slowly implementing one at a time. (I’m a huge fan of baby steps).

It occurred to me, while I was laying in bed… why not share some of my favorite things with my readers? And so that’s just what I’ll do… I hope you enjoy!

I had an enlightening conversation with one of my girlfriends the other night. She talked about what it was like for her live under the microscope. She's the kind of woman who is always open and willing to work on herself. So much so, that she allowed herself to be picked apart not only by her own hand but also by the hands of other people.

I could relate... can you?

For those of us guilty of living under the microscope, let me explain my perspective about why this happens and how we can correct it.

Imagine if you could wave a magic wand and suddenly your life would become what you've always wanted?

It's a nice thought, but the truth is, if everything you wanted in life just simply appeared, you'd probably be bored. And chances would be, that you'd keep waving the wand, never feeling satisfied or fulfilled.

Life is satisfying when we push ourselves out of our comfort zones. We are fulfilled when the foundation of our purposeful life is because of our determination, commitment and hard work.

Believe me, we want to be the creators of our own lives; we don't want our paradise handed over on a silver platter. (Even though we might think we do).

Here are 8 important decisions that will move you forward and change your life!

Can you think of a time when you acted or behaved differently because you wanted to blend in with the crowd?

A chameleon protects itself from predators by changing colors; we too protect ourselves by being, doing or acting differently when we feel vulnerable.

For the most part, we have a deep desire to be liked by others. When people accept us and like us, we feel validated that we are worthy and valuable. But when people disapprove of us, reject us or don't want to be friends with us, it can create a sense of insecurity and self-doubt.

When it comes to creating a big life, living authentically is one of the first items on our 'to-do' list. We want to be real; we want to be ourselves because, in the end, that's what brings us joy. Here are 8 ways to keep it real and to live your life as your authentic self.

Hi my name is Carmen and I was a diet-holic.

There's something about that statement that can silence a room. I totally get it though, why would we want to talk about our pain when we can engage in small talk? And let's face it; it's a heck of a lot easier to talk about the weather than it is to talk about our deepest pain. Even more, we're not always greeted with open arms when we talk about what's hurting us... our pain often makes others uncomfortable.

So, we put on our mask and we live our lives as if nothing is wrong. It feels like this is the sensible way and it certainly feels like it's the easiest way. But yet when we're alone and we take off our mask, our pain is always there to greet us. It doesn't go away, despite our best efforts to ignore it.