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What are your default coping mechanisms?

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Imagine if you lost $400,000 to a VLT and slot machine addiction. What would that do to your life? Your self-image? Your marriage? Your family?

Meet Gisele Jubinville, a wife, mother and grandmother, author, successful business woman and inventor. Nobody would have ever guessed the pain she was living with...

Gisele lost $400,000 to a severe VLT and Slot Machine addiction. She nearly lost her marriage, her self-esteem and she nearly lost her life.

But what kept her going, was a gut feeling that something wasn't right with the machines she was playing.

While tangled in her addiction, Gisele went on a mission. She became a huge government nuisance asking for information and accounting figures. She spent countless hours doing her own research, studying numbers and even picking through casino garbage cans looking for machine receipts that would eventually help her put everything together. At the end of a 10 year period, Gisele compiled a hockey bag full of files exposing a government cover-up that will forever change the perception of VLT and Slot Machines AND the people who become addicted to them.

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Her shocking discoveries have ended her own addiction. Gisele's book, Dismissed, will help tens of thousands of people become aware that VLT and Slot Machines are not games for entertainment, but they are a calculated and well-thought out money-making scheme that is intended to financially exhaust anyone who plays them. As Gisele always says, "It's not the addicts who are sick... it's the machines that are sick."

When Gisele woke up to the fact that she was seriously addicted to VLT and Slot Machines, she did what everyone ought to do when they find themselves in such a predicament... she reflected.

While it's true Gisele exposed a major government cover-up, she is also the first person to admit that after reflecting on her life, she realized she was playing the machines as a way to cope with her reality. Gisele was unhappy and she suddenly found herself standing in front of a machine hoping to distract herself.

Can you relate to this at all?

We all have our challenges. We all have times in our lives when we are unhappy. When the going gets tough, where do you go? What do you do? How do you cope?

Do you pour yourself drink after drink? Do you spend money recklessly? Do you cheat on your partner? Do you soothe yourself with food or deny yourself food? Do you exercise fanatically? Do you smoke cigarettes? Do drugs? Gamble? Do you stick your nose in everyone's business? Do you spend all of your time on Facebook or playing games like Farmville? Do you numb yourself with anti-depressants? Do you drown yourself in work? Do you keep yourself so busy that you can barely keep up? Do you try to be the family savior; trying to solve everyone's problems? Do you hoard all sorts of things? Do you seek attention and praise? Do you whine, criticize or complain all day long?

A coping mechanism is something we turn to in order to distract ourselves from our own reality. There's no need to judge it, we just need to recognize it because like Maya Angelou says, "When we know better, we do better."

Here are some thought provoking questions you can ask yourself once you discover your default coping mechanism...

1) When do I turn to my coping mechanism? Am I with someone specifically? Am I somewhere specifically?

2) What does my coping mechanism do for me? What feeling does it give me? What do I get from it?

3) Does my coping mechanism wreak havoc in my life? How?

4) How can I cope with my life in a more productive way? What are some creative ideas?

5) When I reach for my coping mechanism, what am I really looking for? How can I give that to myself?

There's no point in beating ourselves up. That won't get us anywhere. Instead, we reflect and take an honest look at our lives. We change what needs changing and we let go of what we cannot control. We accept that we are not perfect and so we let go of the idea of being so. We choose to love ourselves despite our faults and weaknesses and everyday we make the commitment to be the best we can be!


Daily Affirmation: Dear _____________, when my life gets tough I find myself __________ in order to cope. I know there are better ways to take care of myself. Please send to me now, creative ideas to help me cope when life gets overwhelming. I also ask that I love myself and that I am gentle with myself because I realize no one is perfect and therefore nobody expects me to be either. Help me to be the best I can be each and every day. I am grateful for your guidance always. I trust you are with me all the way. Thank you. I love you. And so it is.

Click here to learn more about Gisele's book, Dismissed.

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