The mother's role is certainly a very important one.

When I work with my clients, women often share their stories of how they were raised.

Unfortunately many of them recall their mothers to be super busy, over-worked, self-neglected and depleted.

The impact of a mother suffering from these conditions is significant when you consider that the mother is the heart of the home. Children depend on their mothers to nourish their body, mind and soul. If momma doesn't take care of herself she simply doesn't have anything to give.

The world is full of fear. You do not need to look for it. It is constantly imposing itself just waiting for your weak moments so it can swoop in and invade your mind. Like a thief in the night, fear is ready to steal your happiness and leave you empty handed.

We are defeated by fear the moment we entertain our fearful thoughts. The moment we buy into what those fearful thoughts are telling us we lose the battle. The battle is in our mind.

We need to guard our mind. We need to protect ourselves from the messages that are coming our way. For instance fear will say: "Why can't you be like her - you don't measure up. You're too old to find true love - all the good guys are taken. You've been addicted for years - it's too late to get healthy now. You don't have enough education - why would anyone listen to you?"

It doesn't matter what you might be struggling with right now, you are the only solution to your problems. In other words, every action must come from you and every answer lies within you.

Nobody can make you do anything and nobody can really tell you how to resolve what's going on for you.

As a coach, I surely guide my clients by asking them really great questions to help them discover what is going on. When they feel really stuck, I will even suggest to them what I think might be happening and some possible solutions to go along with it. At the end of the day, however, it needs to resonate in their heart and, even if it does resonate, they still have to be willing to take the necessary action steps because I can't do it for them.

Recently Clayton and I have been struggling with our daughter Cara. She's been extremely needy and she behaves in ways that leave the two of us feeling completely depleted by the end of the day.

Clayton and I talked about it several times and yet we could never seem to come up with a way to solve our dilemma. I decided to book an appointment with our family therapist.

As I explained our situation to Michelle, she was quick to identify the problem and she readily offered some solutions for us to consider.

Is it possible to turn a negative situation into a positive?

Well, it depends on your mindset and how you choose to perceive the people and circumstances in your life.

Very recently I realized that I believed this was possible but I wasn't actually living it. As I was reflecting on this idea, I realized that for many situations in my life, when things go wrong or when someone hurts me, I still revert to the same old behaviors of either blame or victim. "Why is this happening to me? Why aren't things working out for me? Why does this person behave in that way?"

Repetition is far more important than I ever imagined it to be.

The spiritual law of repetition states that anything done over and over and over again becomes predominant. So whether you are trying to create a new habit or form a new thought system, repetition is key.

Imagine that you are walking through a forest. Every day you walk down the same trail. You have been doing this for years and so the trail is clear. There are no obstacles.

But now imagine if you decide it's time for a change. You want a new trail but in order to make a new trail, it means blazing a whole new path and the forest is very thick. You understand that the new trail will take some work and commitment but you decide it's worth it.