It's no big secret. I admitted a long time ago, that for me, when the going gets tough, I eat.

Well, okay, to be fair, it's nothing like it used to be. I've gotten much better. I typically catch myself before the act now, I correct myself and I move on. But it still happens every now and again because I'm not perfect and nor do I pretend to be.

The truth is, when the going gets tough, we all do something. Do you know what you do?

Some women are just like me and they turn to food. Other women admit turning to booze, shopping or internet games. Some women keep themselves really busy so they don't have time to feel or think about what's bothering them. And some women take their frustrations out on those around them... I think we can all admit to doing this every now and again.

You might be thinking, "Systems? What the heck is Carmen talking about? I'm not interested in systems." But here's the thing, over the last week I have been working with my clients to create systems in their homes. (Sometimes I swear my clients speak to each other telepathically, because they often bring up the same kind of issues at the same time! It's really neat actually!)

Anyway, many of us women fall into the right brain category so the idea of systems can be a real turn off. However, if you consider the fact that you are already using systems it's much easier to wrap your head around the idea. You might be thinking, "But I don't use systems!" The truth is, from the time you get up in the morning until the time you go to bed, there are systems at work whether you are aware of them or not.

Imagine if you could wave a magic wand and suddenly your life would become what you've always wanted?

It's a nice thought, but the truth is, if everything you wanted in life just simply appeared, you'd probably be bored. And chances would be, that you'd keep waving the wand, never feeling satisfied or fulfilled.

Life is satisfying when we push ourselves out of our comfort zones. We are fulfilled when the foundation of our purposeful life is because of our determination, commitment and hard work.

Believe me, we want to be the creators of our own lives; we don't want our paradise handed over on a silver platter. (Even though we might think we do).

Here are 8 important decisions that will move you forward and change your life!